Humans often apply selfishly. When he wanted to miss something, he prayed out and tried earnestly to achieve everything he missed. When he succeeded, he immediately forgot God. In fact, he considers that success is the result of his own efforts.
Conversely, if failure fails, he is often disappointed by it. Occasionally he aggravated God and put his disappointment on anyone who was considered the culprit of the failure. In fact, feeling disappointed, sad, and upset is born because humans are too hopeful, that God's will must always match their desires.
Obviously, from both attitudes something was missed. That is the attitude of patience, trust, and thankfulness. Therefore, it is fortunate that people who have a patient attitude, when disaster comes upon. And have gratitude when luck comes crashing.
Patience, according to Dzunnun Al-Mishry, is to keep away from things that are contrary to religion. And be calm, when it's hit. As well as being starved in fervor in the midst of the field of life. Or, as Al-Junaid said, "You swallow bitterness without wrinkling your face".
As for gratitude, it is an act of praising the giver for the good he has done. Someone is said to be thankful to Allah, if he acknowledges that pleasure in his heart, then speaks it verbally, and makes the gift of pleasure as a field of obedience to Him. In essence, thanksgiving is a manifestation of patience when humans get pleasure.
Why do we have to be patient when we get pleasure? Because, the gift of pleasure will actually derail humans into mistakes and indulge in lust. How many people are able to be patient when given a test, but cannot be patient when given pleasure.
Shahdan, in the time of the Prophet Muhammad, a test happened to Umm Sulaim. One day her child died, even though her husband was traveling. Umm Sulaim tried to make her son's death suddenly unknown by her husband from the trip later. He also prepares dishes to welcome her husband's arrival.
When the husband arrived, he immediately ate a meal which he had prepared gently. "How are our children now?" Asked her husband. "Alhamdulillah, since the illness was never as calm as tonight," replied Um Sulaim.
Meanwhile, Umm Sulaim decorated herself with the most beautiful clothes she had, so that her husband would emerge. Shortly after her husband had intercourse and satisfied her, Umm Sulaim began to ask, "Didn't Kanda feel surprised by our neighbors?"
"Why are they?" Asked her husband. "They were given a loan, but after being asked to return, suddenly they expressed extraordinary jealousy," replied Um Suliam. "It was bad for them to do it," said her husband. actually happened to his child. "Kanda. Isn't our child just a loan from God? and now God has called him back, "he said.
After hearing his wife's words, the husband was aware of what had happened. "Alhamdulillah, inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raaji'uun," he said full of fortitude. The next day, her husband went to the place of the Prophet Muhammad and told him about the incident early in the morning. The Apostle prayed for the family, "O God, give blessings to the two husband and wife that night".
In another story told, how sad the Prophet Ya'ub when he heard his son, Joseph died. Until it was told how his eyes turned white (Surah Yusuf: 84). And the sadness increased, when his other son, Bunyamin, was detained by the Egyptian government. However, what did the Prophet Ya'ub say at that time? "Fa shabrun jamiil" (Surah Yusuf: 83). Patience is beautiful!
So, the ability to feel the pleasure of being patient lies in how much the quality of recognition of the destiny and omnipotence of Allah SWT. A person can be patient, if he is able to believe that everything that happened because of Allah's permission and believes that Allah will not judge His servants.
Sa'ad bin Jubair gave an example of a slave being beaten with a whip. But the attitude of the slave seemed to reflect the meaning of His word, Inna lillahi Actually we only belong to Allah. So, he acknowledged that he belonged to God who was freely used and what God did.
While the expectation of reward is due to the disaster as if it were the meaning of His word, Wa inna ilaihi raaji'uun And to Him we return. Therefore, it was not surprising when Abu Bakr As-Siddiq fell ill, and the friends who visited him asked, "Brother, shouldn't we just call the physician?" Abu Bakr replied, "Already, the physician has examined me". "What did he say?" They asked. Abu Bakr replied, "He said, '