Mindful parenting is parenting with full awareness in giving attention and not giving a negative assessment of what the child is doing.
Busyness and daily routine unwittingly make us do everything in mode: Auto Pilot! This means that all seems to run by itself without much involving the full awareness of ourselves. In fact, it is important for us as parents to carry out the day mindfully or mindfully.
According to psychologists and psychotherapists, Corinne Sweet, mindfulness is about our full being now. Regarding realizing this moment, how we feel, what we think, what we want, without criticism and judgment. So that we can realize and feel what is happening in the body and the environment around us, including the condition of children.
In carrying out the role of a parent, Mindful Parenting is also needed. One of the markers we are in the stage of being mindful or conscious is, is no longer reactive to the behavior of children or unexpected everyday events.
For example, your 2-year-old child opens the refrigerator and spills milk on the floor. One of the reactive responses from parents is shouting or scolding children, because it makes the floor of the house dirty.
If you are already in a state of mindfulness, you will respond more calmly and consciously. Because he knew, he was only 2 years old and helped the child to achieve what he wanted.
According to Anna Surti Ariani, S.Psi., M.Sc., a child and family psychologist, Mindful Parenting is actually a quality closeness. Can be done by parents such as giving hugs to children, looking into the eyes of children, listening and responding to questions and statements submitted by the child. Not just a reaction, but a response.
Mindful Parenting can make children feel that they are heard, valued, loved, and understood by parents. Mindful Parenting can help reduce hyperactivity and delinquency in children because children tend to be more obedient.
Besides being beneficial for children, Mindful Parenting also brings goodness to parents. Like parents it becomes very easy to establish a better closeness and understanding with children. Parents will be more familiar with their own children and can express their love, so that they become happier parents.
Some things that can help parents to implement Mindful Parenting include:
1. Be aware of your own feelings when there is a conflict with your child.
2. Learn to pause before parents respond with anger.
3. Listen to the child's point of view, even though parents may disagree with the explanation.
These three things can help parents not always react to unpleasant events or undesirable child behavior. When parents (as more mature parties) are able to implement this, it is expected that children can imitate and develop the ability to solve problems better.
Every parent can apply this Mindful Parenting. It's just that, a person's ability to be in a mindful situation is indeed not something that can be directly achieved. It takes routine will and training to achieve this Mindful Parenting condition.
Do routine exercises every day with a moment of silence (for example 5 minutes) to feel, realize, without judging what is happening to ourselves and around us.
Give time for ourselves to regulate our breath, make ourselves relaxed, and let go of thoughts running around in the head. Do it every day in stages, starting from 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 20 minutes, and so on. (*)